So I read the latest noodlings from Dick and Nancy and read the Match.com article and thus followed a whim to search for wimmins on Match and found there are 581 women on there between 40 and 51 within five miles of my zip code. How the hell do people sort through that? Can't go much by picture. It's all about connection, and a snapshot can't tell you anything except who is and who isn't morbidly obese. So they have results customization and one thing you can sort on is eye color.
What. The. Fuck?
Oh, yeah. Let me eliminate all hazel and blue, they might be elves with their terrible bright eyes!
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16 comments:
Have you tried other sites? There must be a Burning Man online dating site. Hell, I found one called Dharmamatch for "spiritual seekers." (WAY too many Scientologists and namby-pamby men I could take in a fight)
Photos can't be trusted either, Don, as some people post pics that are thirty pounds old. People seem to be under the delusion that their web-dates will learn to love them for their clever and witty emails and phone calls and that they'll be so overcome with mind-lust that they will just "pshaw" the size eighteen pants. Then when they've been rejected after the first date because of false advertising, they can walk away bitching about how shallow and superficial people are.
If I hadn't changed my online prefs to "Anyone from anywhere" (basically: dear internet, please introduce me to a decent man with a measurable pulse), I wouldna found the Bluesdood. (Then again, maybe I just got realllly lucky.)
Have fun with internet dating! And it can be fun, trust me!
Now I'm off to read Nancy and Dick...
Wull ... I didn't say I'd actually TRY it. Urgh.
BMan is too outside to have such a thing. Besides, one of my best Burner buddies was ruminating about dating (he's never been married) and said, "But, Dude, would you actually want to date a Burner chick?" This from a guy who's slept with dozens of them. Evidently there's an ick-factor I haven't sniffed out yet.
Anyway, as I've sen them the sites are way too specific and mechanical and, I dunno, I just don't see how it can work beyond pure blind luck comparable to colliding carts at the grocery store. Plus these women who write long articles describing the perfect man! I'd be surprised if they ever get anything but hate mail.
@Don: "...date a Burner chick? Evidently there's an ick-factor I haven't sniffed out yet."
Bathing?
@Aileen: for the record, the puffin is more svelte since the my mom and I did that picture.
Zen made 3 women friends through Plenty of Fish (free) and 1 became his current girlfriend. Eliska has made at least 2 men friends that I know of through the same site, and 1 is her current boyfriend. So it can work.
But yeah, I've read those women profiles because of Zen and my brother (oh, yeah, he found his current Russian girlfriend through an online site) and they can really be outrageous in their preferences. Like what guy can live up to their exacting standards???? The guys are a little easier to read about, I think. They're basically easy to please. LOL.
they might be elves with their terrible bright eyes!
Don't rule out the possibility. Sometimes elves can be slutty.
I never understood the checklist thing that women do. Why don't they just open their profiles with "W2 and Income Disclosure required on first date?"
Then again, since so many guys think they deserve to date models who moonlight at Spacex, I guess it all evens out in the end.
This post made me feel quite lucky.
That said, the man and I rekindled our earlier real-time affair online over 11 years ago.
Also, not all Burner women are icky. Many bathe and are quite successful in life. I know some. Maybe your buddy needs to raise the burner bar, or maybe only the icky ones want him? Careful of generalizing, or you may never get laid! ; )
I keep trying to comment on this post, but end up saying too much about myself. I kinda think the odds of cute-meeting via shopping cart smash are terribly low, lower than finding a great date via sifting through a bunch of ads online, hopeless as that may seem at first. People may lie, send fake pics, etc., but there's no guarantee someone you meet in meatspace is who she says she is either. You still have to be careful either way. At least you know the online women actually want to date, unless of course they're phonies writing articles about online dating... :)
@Paula: The odds with a grocery cart collision depend on the store and its clientele.
People may indeed "lie, send fake pics, etc.," but gekko's and my experience as well as that of Deck and Alma shows that you can learn a lot about each other through years of newsgrouping, emails, photos, and (eventually) phone calls.
Well, I'm still a believer in real-life. That you have to meet someone while you're going on with yours.
Right now I'm seeing someone who was randomly selected by a computer. I knocked on his door to enlist him in a study. He has probably no qualities I'd have listed, but many I wouldn't have been smart enough to think of.
So my new theory is go knock on doors randomly (or some metaphorical equivalent), and when you find someone you kind of click with, see where it takes you.
It's funny, I posted this as a reaction to the eye color filter, and am getting dating advice in return. All of which is appreciated. But I'm taking my time. Last thing I want to do is take on the road my comfort with being attached at the hip. Methinks I need some alone time.
OTOH, I met my neighbor, and she's a very beautiful and very friendly latina I'd say about twenty-seven ...
not all Burner women are icky
Oh, I know. Do I. My friend's comment still confuses me.
Maybe he's disdainful of women generally. I perceive varying levels of misogyny in some guys, including some men who are very popular with women (as he is). Maybe he sees negative things in some women that I never would. I dunno.
I don't think that Madonna-Whore thing ever really went on, except with woman-hating men, for whom it's been going on for as long as there have been women and woman-hating men.
I think it's much more pervasive than simply being among men who can be identified as woman-hating. In a society rife with mixed messages about our most fundamental needs and drives, many not-woman-hating men end up projecting mothers, sisters, lovers, and objectified sources of overwhelming desire onto the women they respond to. This makes life very confusing for them and a glance at how men generally behave proves it.
Where *I* fit into all that would make an interesting blog post I am not likely to write. :)
Listened to a podcast on Polyamory Weekly (polyweekly.com) featuring an interview with the author of a book taking an anthropological/biology consideration of sexuality from the dawn of time, etc.
A statement made, backed up by studies of bonobos and genuinely matriarchical societies is that when women are in charge, men generally get more sex and are generally happier. A statement that women do not demonstrate their leadership coercively, but rather persuasively. Or maybe it's barterively. Or something.
Anyway. Just an interesting, maybe related (or maybe not) thought.
Book title: "Sex At Dawn". Already bought the kindle version for my droid.
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